Even if it is difficult to be really yourself, one thing is certain, you can not be yourself if you do not accept yourself. So the first goal you need to fix is:
Take a moment and ask yourself what is important to you and what is valuable to you? And take the time to ask yourself what is the essence and the true aspiration of your being.
” To take some fresh air “
For that, think of the things that you like, practice sports activities that speak to you, take rest periods to open a book. Go once a week to the cinema for example, go for walks in the forest or many other things. Give yourself time to get out of your subway train, work, sleep. These activities will provide you with an interior space to reflect your deep aspirations.
“Turn the page of the past and evolve”
Then a very important state not to cultivate is not to live in the past. Too many people live in the past with perpetual affirmations like:
“Ah, ten years ago I was doing this, I was doing this”
“When I think of our moments of laughter, I regret it”
“I was a lot cooler at the time”
Do not hurt yourself unnecessarily. The past is the past. Turn the page and give yourself the right to forgive your mistakes and forgive yourself for that attitude or behavior you were not proud of for example.
All of this belongs to the past. Now you are in the present moment. Only this one really exists. I would say that in any case, all experiences, no matter what they are, remain positive. They make us evolve. If one of your friends replies to you: “not me, I’m the same as twenty years ago” it may be that somewhere he does not evolve much, he remains in his closed parterns. But I tell you, until the end of our days, we will continue to evolve and learn and that is what makes the great wealth of life.
“Stop comparing yourself to others”
Concentrate on your energy, the inner strength that lies deep within you. Concentrate on it and stop making comparisons of yourself with your neighbor.
The comparison brings you right to grudge or jealousy and this state of being is not good at all. Because instead of focusing on yourself, you are focused on someone else. Which, subsequently, leads to criticism of others. A life filled with criticism directed towards the development of a bad self-esteem, a lack of confidence and a bad mirror for your friends.
As a result, you risk to lose them. Being in analysis, comparison and criticism takes you away from yourself to imprison you because you can not be fully yourself only when you are free from it. To envy one’s neighbor is, in a way, to come out of one’s inner house and thus get lost.
“No one is perfect, find your inner child and laugh! “
In conclusion I would say that there are no miracle recipes. But just try to relax, not worry about your neighbor, take the time to be and laugh at simple things like a child. You are not perfect, nobody is. And the more you will remain the inner child, the more you will remain in simplicity, the lighter your life will be and you will get closer to yourself.
“We attract what we are”
We attract what we are, by being more and more just yourself, you will attract people and situations that match you. Stay away from negativity, if someone criticizes you or throws you some thoughts, do not take it personally, let them talk and do not let those words affect your state of being. It is often these people who have a problem, not you. The person in front of you acts according to his own state of being, his own demons, is maybe jealous or frustrated or maybe both.
In a few words :
In a few words, stay honest and have an open mind. Simply acknowledge your faults, do not compare yourself to others, and do not try to look like this or that person because it will not be you and you will not be happy about it. Keep it simple, do not worry about what others think. Recognize your qualities as well as your faults, welcome your smiles and sorrows and affirm your tolerance and gratitude.
One thing is certain, it is that you attract the people who correspond to you so if you want joy, love and laugh, welcome what you are in the depths of your being.